I fear we have wasted our tears on the wrong thing, and we have none left to shed for real sorrow, pain, joy and regret. If you have followed the hockey headlines for the last few weeks you would know that the Las Vegas Knights recently lost the Stanley Cup to the Carolina Hurricanes. One of the bylines of the loss by Las Vegas surrounded their goalie, Carter Hart.

I was invited into many spaces to discuss “what is/was wrong with men” and how to fix them. In these conversations over a decade ago I saw a trend in these discourses. Everyone wanted men to change.